You’d think that being a stay-at-home mom like myself would mean plenty of “me-time”, right?

Well, I thought so, too.

But boy oh boy… was I completely mistaken.

With two kids, the youngest now a toddler, the to-do list seems never-ending. Just like the laundry pile that constantly overflows from the hamper.

Most days, finding “me-time” in the chaos of motherhood feels hard with everything you have to do. But though it’s challenging, it’s not impossible.

It just takes a little bit of planning, a lot of patience, and the willingness to let go of some of that pressure we put on ourselves.

So here’s how I make space for myself even on the busiest mom days. I hope it inspires you to do the same, because you deserve it.

 

1. Plan Your Days or Week

Since becoming a mom, I’ve found that organizing my week in advance helps me mentally prepare for the chaos ahead.

It’s not just about managing chores but about intentionally creating space for me in my schedule.

Even if it’s just ten minutes here or a quiet cup of coffee there, planning gives me control over my time, creating those small moments of peace that I so desperately need.

I’m no longer drowning in the chaos. I’m carving out moments for myself and enjoying the peace that comes with it.

 

2. Stick to a Daily Routine

Yes, life with kids can be unpredictable, but having a routine has helped me keep things in order. I created a schedule that aligns with the kids’ needs but also allows me to carve out time for myself.

Knowing when my tasks end and my “me time” begins helps me feel grounded and gives me something to look forward to.

Routines might feel rigid, but they can set you free. It’s something that can help guide you through the day.

Even if things don’t go as planned (and let’s be honest, in motherhood they rarely do), having a simple structure keeps me focused and helps me grab those much-needed moments for myself.

 

3. Enjoy Little Pockets of Time

One of my favorite things is seizing those small, fleeting moments. When the kids are still asleep and the house is quiet, that’s when I steal a few moments for myself.

I use that time to stretch, do a quick skincare routine, do a few minutes of deep breathing, or simply sit in silence with my thoughts.

On rare quiet mornings, I get out of bed before the chaos starts and take a quick 10-minute walk. Just fresh air and sunshine is enough to set the tone for the day.

These moments might seem small, but they fill my cup, lift my spirit, and remind me that even brief self-care goes a long way.

 

4. Set Boundaries

For so long, I thought I had to be with my kids every second of every day. But learning to set boundaries with my family has been life-changing.

There are times when their dad takes them out for a while, and instead of feeling guilty for not tagging along, I stay home.

It wasn’t easy at first. All these intrusive thoughts come up leaving me anxious all the time. As a mom, you constantly worry about your kids, but now, I’m learning to embrace those quiet moments alone.

Whether it’s catching up on work, reading a book, or laying on a hammock.

It’s in these rare moments alone that I feel like myself again, not just a mom.

 

5. Ask for Help

I always do everything myself until I realized how important it was to ask for help.

Asking for help is not a sign of weakness— it’s an act of self-love.

Once a week, I take half a day for myself. During that time, my partner watches the kids while I head out for some “me time.”

Sometimes I meet up with friends, snorkel at the beach, do some laps in the pool, or simply lounge in the hammock and enjoy the peace.

These hours are my sanctuary, and they recharge me in a way nothing else can. It’s my time to reflect and reconnect with myself.

Mama, don’t be afraid to ask for help. You don’t have to do it all alone. Whether it’s asking a friend or your partner to step in for a few hours, giving yourself that time is crucial.

 

6. Embrace the Little Things

Self-care doesn’t have to be grand or time-consuming. Sometimes, it’s the simple things that make the biggest difference, like enjoying a warm cup of coffee, listening to music, or sitting outside in the sun.

These small acts of kindness to yourself might feel insignificant at the moment, but over time, they build up and create a profound impact on your well-being.

 

Mama, I know how hard it can be to find time for yourself with everything else demanding your attention.

But YOU matter. And your well-being matters.

Your happiness, comfort, and fulfillment are just as important as everything else on your to-do list.

You’re not just a mother. You’re a person who has hopes, dreams, and aspirations, and those deserve space too.

So start today, one small step at a time, and watch as those moments of peace breathe life back into your spirit.

You deserve to feel like the vibrant, fulfilled woman you are, not just for your family, but for you.

And trust me, when you begin prioritizing yourself, you’ll notice how much of a difference it makes—not just in your life, but in the way you show up for your loved ones.

You’ve got this, Mama! Let’s make time for you because you truly deserve every bit of it.